[urgent] hi i need help please

If they don't accept you as you then explain to them the reason why. If they don't understand then just believe in yourself. You have to be willing to try and be confident. Long ago Joshua you told me to just keep my head up. That it'll get better. I'm saying the same thing to you. Life isn't easy. Never is never will. Take a stand for yourself and tell your family who you are as a person.

 

We're all rooting for you and support you. Good luck. You are your own person. You must be confident in yourself, as you are a wonderful being of this world along with the rest of us. Go by your own decisions, and don't let anyone stop you from being yourself. You were put on this Earth for a reason, okay? If you feel you'd like to tell them, by all means, follow your heart.

Good luck!

 

As long as you as in your personality is the same or you don't, well, dye your hair rainbow get a punk mullet and wear black leather studded shirts running around screaming "FUCK MY FAMILY" I think you will be fine.
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But in all honesty you will be fine, that's a really sweet way to come out, go get em tiger haha.

 

I'm not exactly sure what advice to give you as I've never done something like this with my family before, I know family and the internet are two extremely different things. All I can do is wish you luch, Josh! c:
(btw im sorry for calling you Eli for the past while, I didn't realize my mistake until now.)

 

Joshua,

If your family is ANYTHING like my family, they know when something is up. If you don't tell them they'll probably sense your discomfort and figure it out themselves. I would just be blunt with it, and if they for any reason disown you I guarantee you that you'll never be alone.

Thank you for sharing your response-
total secret advice giver
(I made this like those cool newspaper articles that you submit when you ask anonymous questions)

 

I actually have given hints, like how I dress, do my hair, and I even bought a binder. I have experimented with my gender expression a lot. I've asked for my family to use the pronouns I go by. I've tried my best to hint at it, now I think it'd be better to actually tell someone.

 

I believe that things will turn out for the better. How you feel is a very important thing. I rather have my child comfortable in their skin then feel upset. If your family is not accepting maybe you can turn to another family member? A cousin, friend, aunt, uncle. No matter what the community has your back, we love you for you. You're a very mature person and I think what you're doing is a very big step and i'm proud. Try to stay positive as things might go better then you think & always have a back up plan. I hope everything turns out great. Stay true to yourself.. that's what matters the most.

 

I'm not good at giving advice but I'd like to say good luck on coming out Joshua

 

It's a chance you've got to take..... At some point you are going to have to tell them. I'm no good at any advice tbh. But I do wish you good luck and I hope people accept you as you are. We are all the same some people just don't understand that.

 

i'm not quite sure if I have another family member to go to because they're all quite close. and i don't really have friends to stay with.

 

I would check in about that just or sure. Anyway try to do your best to understand your parents responses, even if you don’t like how they are responding. Let your parents know that a social transition is an important step to help you find out more about yourself. If things go a little awkward I suggest maybe asking them to check out a website more about transgender teens or LGBT+ things. Whenever you are comfortable you should tell them. If not now maybe wait till you're a bit older.. I feel as if now is a bit better but then again when you are older you will be able to move out a bit quicker if things turn that way.

 

You should talk to them. Ask them if they love you for the person you are, and then tell them who you actually are. Tell them you're still you. Nothing changes that. I'm not good at giving advice since I'm almost in the same situation like you.

 

well, they've said some things about religion and they also say it's not natural and doesn't exist. which I don't understand. my family is catholic.

 

You'll be okay. You were put on this Earth for a reason. You have to be confident in yourself. Be the person you really are.

all the best 4 u


like @BashfulBaker said

 

Hay
Sexuality does NOT define you.
Everyone should be treated equally gay or not. Tell your grandparents to watch a lil' Ellen DeGeneres, tell them she's a lesbian and THEN come out. If they hate you then you tell 'em they're one of the people who don't understand that sexuality does not say you're a bad person.
Good luck charlie :3

 

Well, there's a difference between sexual orientation and gender identity. Ellen doesn't represent the LGBTQ+ community, I'm sure they know of her.
ty for the support

 

yes a double post,nag me. but I'd just like to thank everyone for the support. i never expected it, it means a lot to me. For real. I thought that ppl would think im doing this for attention and I'd get negative feedback but i was wrong. Sorry.
i can't put it into words, thank you. I'm very very anxious and scared still.

 

It may be a bit difficult for her to understand, bit unless she is a die hard Jesus freak, she will accept it.
If she is, she will murder you, because the bible says that all gays should die.
Some of it may be simply genetics, but that's how you were made, God or not.
As for your gender identity, it's just how you like to be in her eyes. Honestly, it doesn't matter, but it is odd to think about a girl with boy parts or vice versa, but it is ultimately better for you.
I hope I'm not wrong about... everything.