Mental Breakdown Thing... Idk What Its Called

This is a serious topic that happens IRL and I just want to talk about it.
Hi! So I am lucky to have many friends on IJAH and in school. One of my best friends in school has been having problems that me and my friendship group are unaware of. We knew she was getting bullied (well I did) and I tried to persuade her to talk to the Behaviour Person whatever but she was to shy. So instead... she... cuts. If you dont know what that is it is basically self harm. And it was on Monday and we just finished lesson 1 and we were waiting to be dismissed. She looked in pain and she was messing with her arm so I asked her "You ok?" then she showed me the cuts. I fell into instant tears and it made my anxiety off the charts. She was hugging me I was bright red (tomato :p) and she was telling me she was ok. NO. She was not. She was self harming. Risking her life. I asked her why and she said family problems and JJB (someone from our school). I was just broken inside. I cried for 25 minutes streight and everyone was asking me if I was ok but I said Im fine / ok. Just tired.

Spoiler: Im fine / ok. Just tired.

I ran off at break and just my luck. My phone smashed. (I didnt rly care coz crap phone) I told my mum and I told her the story and I was in tears again. More people were asking if I was ok. And I said Im ok. Even tho it was 2 days ago she is still cutting and making it worst. Please. If you are being bullied or self harming talk to someone. They do help. Trust me. I would know. #GingerLife ;)
Hopefully no one disses but this community is amazing so I already know no one will
~Alicia / Alice
P.S this isnt a lie. It happened

Spoiler: Suicidal / Being Bullied In The UK?

Samaritans ~ 116 113
Childline ~ 0800 1111
All these people will be anonymous but hopefully they help :)

And no one knows this but... I'm suicidal. And I have been for nearly 2 years.

 

Hope things get better but there's nothing we can really do.
You're the only one who can do something.

 

seek medical attention, it's the best way forward for both you and her.

 

If this is making you nervous to the point of an anxiety attack, distance yourself
I realize you are younger and want to help but this isn't helping anybody, sticking around her. As someone who previously self harmed / had been in a similar situation, this is what I advise

When you are calm, talk to her if you are comfortable with that. If not, talk to an adult. Telling someone about bullying is NOT tattling and it really does end it (I've been in that situation too). Tell about the self harm to a guidance counselor or someone. She'll definitely be mad for a period of time, but it's whats best in the long run. Honestly, when I was in that period of time, I wish someone had done it for me. What is important is her safety, because self harm is serious

Also, suicide is never, let me emphasize that: NEVER, the answer. I was suicidal, I was pushed to being suicidal in the past month, and I worked through it. I've grown so much in the past few months, and if I committed suicide, I would never had. You are incredibly young, and you have so much to live for. Find a stable group of friends or someone to talk to, it helps

 

I'm sorry to hear this.

I hope things get better for you, Alicia. :(
I have had thoughts like this before, but then things got better for me. Well, they aren't even better yet. I feel like people are talking behind my back every minute of the hour. Luckily, I have a few friends.

If you're okay, tell her you aren't comfortable with her self-harming herself. Talk to someone about how you feel. The internet is not always the best answer. People say, "The internet doesn't lie!!!", but sometimes that isn't true. Her safety is important, but so is yours.

Suicide is not the answer.
Suicide for yourself = Sad for other people. Some people think, "Let me just end my life and suicide," that when others think "Please don't suicide!!!" That's the complete opposite of what you think. If I had suicide, I would never be like I am now. You're only 12. You have so much that you can live for.

Best wishes/luck to you.
I hope this helped.
Super

 

Ty SOUP

 

Ty to everyone!
My friend has been seeking counselling from the school counsellor and I've been doing nothing :P
My suicidal thoughts arent like bad

Spoiler: :P

My friend still cuts but I dont I can tell you that right now I dont cut never have done never will.
Again thank you for all the support and ideas on way to help :)

 

Forever <3