Harassment on the server

Words of Others: Harassment

It's jjv, and I'm back with another thread, and maybe one of my last threads. No, I'm not leaving ItsJerryandHarry or anything, I just find that going on the forums is like walking into hell; it is full of negativity, harassment, and hatred. To my understanding, the harassment as increased lately. Coming to the forums used to be fun to help people but now I have realized I can no longer help, as if I am worthless, but I am making this thread to prove I am not worthless, as well as everyone else in the community.


~This thread is quite long, and I highly doubt anyone will actually read through the whole thing and comprehend what is being said, but the small portion of people that do read it and give a good response, thank you.


To start off: I have noticed many players, whether they are bad players, good players, or staff members, have been experiencing a lot of hate of harassment. People have came to me saying how harassment they have gotten and I have heard many stories myself about it in the ItsJerryandHarry community, some stories are outside as well.


ha·rass·ment
həˈrasmənt,ˈherəsmənt/
noun

noun: harassment; plural noun: harassments

aggressive pressure or intimidation."they face daily harassment by the police"
synonyms:
persecution, intimidation, pressure, force, coercion;informalhassle "the report cites three separate accusations of harassment"


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Stories of Some People on ItsJerryandHarry


Today: I have talked to a kind, lovely person on ItsJerryandHarry recently and he/she has told me that they were getting harassed. This person said they were trying to make the community a better place but still got called names and it has affected this person strongly.

[Note]: He/she has messaged me about what happened and their opinions about harassment: [This is the exact thing they messaged me, some grammar errors and misspellings were done]
"Lately I have been trying to improve the community for several different reason. ONE of those reasons is harassment. There has been a lot of harassment on the server and on the forums lately,and I have actually experienced it. Being harassed is something that someone will never forget; even if you think words don't matter.

*I personally feel as if the community needs to understand what it has become with the harassment on the server today.*
My experience: After doing my best to improve the community, I realized my words just dissolved into someone's mind due to them being ignorant and not noticing the words or caring about the words of wisdom. Anyways, I tired ignoring the harassment, but it was hard to not forget or ignore. I had lots of people backing me up, supporting me, you know, always being there for me. Even with their help, it was hard to ignore. I finally decided to stick up for myself.That may have possibly been the wrong decision and I understand that. Anyways, the more and more I stubbled to fight for myself against the harassment, the worse it got.
I was so confused on why I was getting harassed for trying to improve the community, so I simply asked the players me why they were doing it. They replied by saying "I was annoying" and so much other similar things due to the fact I wanted to change the community for the best. It hurt me so much….mixed emotions ran through my head.
Harassment has become such a big problem on the server, and I realize that due to my experience. When I got harassed, I felt as if my words were not needed, and felt that I was worthless. What they didn't understand, is that every word they used against me was like a knife because it hurt me. It didn't hurt me physically, it hurt me emotionally. Harassment is not like punching someone real life, physically. That pain eventually goes away. Harassment is a pain that is everlasting, no matter how much the witness tries ignoring it, or how they stand up for themselves, the pain will still be remembered, and will still last.

It will never be forgotten, because words are something will always be remembered. Especially harsh words, words that are used against someone. "
~Lone_Wolf171

This is another story also by an ItsJerryandHarry player; please note that this story is a REAL life story and is outside of the server. This person on the server does get harassed on ItsJerryandHarry and hurts them very much. This does show that what you say to people can really affect them because of the personal issuses they have in the real world. Harassment, in or outside the server, can really turn someone's life upside down.
"First off, I was and still am mentally retarded. So right off that bat I learned a lot slower than others. If I was playing a simple game of Kickball and I was supposed to toss it to someone, my mind would just lock up. So, just learning basic stuff at a middle school level was difficult than ever.

I also have ADHD which made my life a lot harder. So ever since people found that out I was harassed/bullied, they just kept saying stuff like, " How did you make it in middle school your a sp*d go back to kindergarten." Or, " Why am I working with this Dumb***"

At some point I almost killed myself about 2 times. I was literally at the lowest point in my life and didn't think it would get any better."
~ItsJerryandHarry Player
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You may be questioning, "Why did you make this a thread?"
I made this thread for many reason but one is to show what your actions and words can do, even behind a computer screen. Yes, it is the internet but your words can really hurt someone. It is just like being harassed in the real world. Many people on this server search for friendship and happiness but if they are getting harassed, they begin to think they are worthless and trash. Everyone has to remember that you may not understand what a person on the server is going through, if they are being harassed and bullied, it may just make matters worse for them.

I always thought I was worthless because of the lack of friends I had throughout my childhood and the fact people would always make fun of me. I used to get threatened and bullied when I was little; I still do today and I will be totally honest, it is damn hard to ignore the past and focus on the present. When I came to ItsJerryandHarry, after my depression developed, I actually had some type of voice here, like someone could always be there for me even if it is all a video game. I have great friends here that I dream to see when I get older.

I have seen many of my good friends on the server also get harassed, a few being staff members, and they have told me the same thing "It hurts." With the increase of harassment in this community, I thought I should open some people up to a story I had as well as a few other members of the community. Many did not want to tell their stories, a few were brave enough to but they have yet to tell me.


Now, before you comment, just think about it; this thread will most likely be forgotten by many people if we don't stop and think. Think about your actions both on ItsJerryandHarry and in the real world. Think before you act because it could really hurt someone and possibly scar them.

More stories will be placed into this thread if needed. PM me if you'd like to tell me your story, you're name will not be written down and you will be unknown to people reading the stories. Please do not hate or say these stories are fake because the people that have told me their stories are very brave for telling some 'random person on the internet' their personal experiences

 

I deeply appreciate how you are trying to fix the community and prevent it from turning into a potential chaotic mess. the harassment and plain rudeness has been bugging me lately and probably some others too! o_O
I hope others can realize that how three server will turn into a mess if we don't try to fix it by bring nice and advertising kindness to others :)

 

Thank you for making this thread jjv. I feel like there was been FAR too much harassment going on on the server lately, I hope this changes some people ;)

 

I would greatly appreciate if u edited ur post removing the profanity. It is against the rules and may offend someone :/

 

Mild swearing is allowed. There is nothing wrong with one word, and it's not directed towards anyone.

Spoiler

I, and other staff will keep an eye out on this thread.

 

Thanks for the reply! I misunderstood and didn't look at the rules obviously. Also I appreciate you and other staff looking out here for any trouble ! <3

 

What do you mean "Keep an eye out on this thread?"