I wouldn't go too dark if you have paleish skin.. you'll look even more pale. unless thats what you're going for.
For real lol try like a light blonde or highlights. And ask your sister, she may be of alot of help xD
Maybe like... A Purple? or a blue? I have Purple hair and i have like... its not REALLY Tan.. its like medium i guess, But if your pale Blue or purple would work i think. :)
Don't dye your hair to red/black because once you dye it there's no going back. There's almost absolutely no way to remove red/black from your hair, so if you regret it later, too bad. Maybe dye it to blond or something? Natural colors are the best IMO.
Blond scares the crap of me, it's turns out to be gold, and I'm not the most golden kid in the play house. xO