Finding value in ourselves

Hey, user! Thanks for clicking on this thread! :)

I know I haven't done one of these threads in a while because I didn't really feel motivated to do so and I kinda had some things distracting me from this community. I can't say I'm fully available yet, but I would like to take the time to make this thread as it may help some people who are struggling to find their place.

I mainly wanted to make this thread about finding the good things we've done in our lives and comparing them to the bad, and eventually forgetting our guilt for the bad things we've done.

What's happening?
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So today we may find ourselves feeling guilty for certain bad things we've done in our past, and sometimes we feel regret, remorse, or shame for our actions we may do previously. We're all immature at some point in our lives, and we do childish things, but some people can't accept the reality that some people can change. Some people feel like terrible people for certain things, and some people feel that their negatives outweigh their positives. The problem is that we tend to look more at the bad things we may have done rather than the good.

If you examined your previous actions more closely, you may find that you aren't as bad of a person as you may think.

You're important, you matter.​

People may naturally feel that they aren't worth anything to the world, or feel that they aren't a good enough person to make a difference in the world. It's not possible to convince you of the person you are, or the person you could possibly be. It's ultimately your decision to start believing in yourself and decide that your flaws are only stepping stones toward a better future, not something to regret. Mistakes are a learning experience, let them build you up, not pull you down.

Ask for help, guidance, and direction.​

The world is cold and dark, but you should always have a friend with you to keep the path lit. Someone who understands who you are or the situation you're in can give you someone to fall back on when you have certain problems that you need help in dealing with.

Remember that you don't have to be alone through every situation. There are people willing to help you, and asking for help isn't a craving for attention, it's asking for a helping hand. You aren't making it someone else's problem, you're accepting help and guidance from a friend.

People can change. It all depends on if you're willing to do so.​

Anyone can change who they are. Anyone can become a different person, and anyone can completely revamp their character. The problem is finding the courage and motivation to finally rebuild your character to a better person.

Continuing to feel unsatisfied with your character and not doing much to change yourself is like writing with a broken pencil. It's pointless (literally). There are many great things about you. The best step is to understand both your positives and negatives to see if you are really as bad of a person as you may think.

Listing positives and negatives.​

A common practice that can help people is the art of keeping a note or virtual display to remind them of the person they are, and the many great things about them. When you recognize the positives about you, reminding yourself of them may go a long way to helping you build your character.

List down all your positives and negatives on two sheets of paper. Positive on one paper, and negative on the other.




Once you have done this, you should keep your paper with your positives. Keep it somewhere near or a place that you can look toward when you are feeling that you aren't the person you want to be. Sometimes keeping a note to remind ourselves of the good we've done can go a long way to helping us with self-recognition.

Next, review your paper of negatives. Take in all the negatives that you have done in your past and remember all that you have done wrong. Afterward, turn the paper upside down, and state all the apologies you need to state. Write all your mistakes down, and state that you've recognized them and are willing to move on from them.

Once you've done this, destroy the paper, albeit shredding, burning, trashing, etc. Now that these mistakes are no longer your burden, you can move on, and you cannot return to those memories.

Look toward the future with optimism, not the past with pessimism. The past isn't anything you can change, but the future is.

Hopefully this helped some people who are struggling to find value in themselves. Remember that you can make a difference. As long as you have the motivation and drive to do something, anything is possible!

Thanks for reading, and have a great day or night.

-Sirius

 

Great thread.

 

Thanks. I'm really not sure about posting these anymore since no one really reads them, but I may try something else later :)

 

I'll do something for ya later in the day, just watch out for your alerts ;)
(Trust me on this)

 

This thread needs more bumps. I've never seen anything like it, and I really appreciate it. Thanks man. Additional credits to @TheRealSmg for shouting you out and bringing me here.

 

Damn, this is a really nice thread! :) More people should look at this thread.

 

Thanks a lot! Hopefully this reached out to people. We need more inspiration and confidence in this world, and less negativity and conflict!

Hopefully one day we will all build a better world :)

 

can i just add to this
concerning grades/school
a stupid letter doesn't determine who you are
you're better than that
don't let people judge you on how you did on a test
numbers don't matter. you are what you pursue to be