Me being "toxic"

Discussion in 'General Discussion / Real life stuff' started by Denisvenom9, Apr 11, 2016.

  1. Denisvenom9

    Denisvenom9 》Faction Veteran《,

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    After getting many opinions on me, I have seen that many people.dislike me because of me being being toxic and uncarring. I don't really know why, but I find it unpelasing that I am called "toxic" just because of my Tbhs thread, where I posted my true opinions on people, but later on higher staff members started really disliking me, pming me and just overall saying that I am a jerk. So I'm sorry I guess, I just don't see why one thread can cause so much hate, so I have

    A. Decided to become somewhat more nice
    B. Continue my tbhs, as I find it nece
    sary to state my opinions.
    C. Become a better person and have more frens c:

    The other thing is, is that for all the people that have tbhed me, they all said "your a dick kys, but you may be cool idk".
    This really bothers me due to the fact that you wrote a paragraph about me saying that I am a horrible person, yet I may be cool. Like wtf? Be honest not a dick and lie, its a Minecraft forum you don't have to be fake to be liked.

    So yes sorry I guess. If you wanna talk pm me
    If you have anything to tell me ethier comment or pm me.


    I also want to know how my opinion can be "wrong" or "true' not, like the actual fuck its my opinion.
     
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  2. Katy_

    Katy_ Donator

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    I don't think you're a dick or anything.
    I just think that you could choose nicer ways
    of saying what you wanna say.
    Its called 'to be honest' not 'to be rude'
    This is just my opinion.
     
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  3. Netherr

    Netherr Administrator Staff Member Administrator

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    Most probably the reason you are being called toxic is because of your attitude towards others. Let's be honest, you're far from the kindest person on the planet but most people aren't anyway. Most of your posts tend to come of as agreesive and the amount of profanity in them doesn't help. Also, you tend to get into arguments with people and you act as if you know everything; a smart aleck. Although you are these, you are also an honest person which I can respect due to the lack of that here. My suggestion for you is to simply be more wary of your tone and language for it makes a huge difference in terms of the impression other people get from you.
     
  4. Denisvenom9

    Denisvenom9 》Faction Veteran《,

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    None here is close to being the nicest person on the planet. Try for honesty, I'll chnage my attitude I guess.
    The reason I act like this is no one shows me respect, why should I respect them?
     
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    Netherr Administrator Staff Member Administrator

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    My apologies, I meant to say
    not
    Anyway, you don't exactly have to change your attitude, it's just a bit of a suggestion to hopefully help you with your problems with these people. As for the whole respect part, some people simply prefer to be respected first before respecting back so if you do so, maybe you'll get respected back? Anyway, do what you want, just don't regret it.

     
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  6. Denisvenom9

    Denisvenom9 》Faction Veteran《,

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    I used to be like that, I changed because no one respected me, the reason why your respected is because of your staff rank.
     
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  7. vipa

    vipa the hornace of death Donator

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    Just a tip, you shouldn't force change on yourself, just let it come naturally, if you force down change, then you'll find it very hard to act like how you want to, and I speak from experience.
     
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  8. Denisvenom9

    Denisvenom9 》Faction Veteran《,

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    Finally someone who actually understands.
     
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  9. TheMint

    TheMint Former Mod+ Donator

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    I respect the guy because he's mature, smart, trustworthy and overall nice. Not because he's staff.
     
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  10. Denisvenom9

    Denisvenom9 》Faction Veteran《,

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    Thats one of the reasons.
     
  11. YFIOTR

    YFIOTR Donator

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    If there was going to be change, it would have started with this thread. However, your attitude in this thread just sounds like complaints rather than making a full attempt at change. The words "I guess" don't sound convincing to anyone. You used to be a really cool guy in the way you posted and acted and I'm sure you still are. You just have not shown it anymore. I know there's good in there.
    :)
    Remember you have to be respected by admins before you become staff to actually have a chance
     
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  12. Syrian

    Syrian Former Mod x2 Donator

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    Honestly, if he's really so upsetting, then why do you fight fire with fire? I know it's fun to speak out against drama and look like "Heroes" on the forums to rebel against profanity when you see it, but does @Denisvenom9 really deserve public humiliation over it? The mistakes I made shouldn't be repeated. No one is in the right or wrong, but if someone is the center of hate, they would obviously want to be forgiven / understood. It's one thing to confront someone about a problem you have with them, but it's another to insult them back. Sometimes I wonder if people remember that we're human. Humans make mistakes, and we can't always be perfect.
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  13. Denisvenom9

    Denisvenom9 》Faction Veteran《,

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    you made my day ily.
    i am trying to change, and you make it harder? if you were a "staff member" you should be more supportive towards other people and not just hate/
     
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    Smg Retired | Also known as 'Phaithful' Donator

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    Literally, I can get why people may dislike you. You got controversial opinion on things, and people tend to "attack" people who think the way you do. In my opinion, you shouldn't be 'hated' for having a different output on things. It shows that you're a unique person, and not afraid to speak your mind. That's a trait that I know a lot of people want.

    To your attitude, I do think you should become a bit nicer. I'm all for you being honest, but sometimes, things you say can be taken to heart. What I would say: Just try to be a bit nicer, but don't drop your whole 'truth' thing.

    If people actually said that stuff to you in a 'tbh' thread, just forget about them. They can't accept you for who you are, someone who can be honest.

    Tl;DR
    Just keep being yourself, no matter what people think of you. You are you, no matter if you may think controversially or not. Just keep being you, and keep being honest. There's nothing more I could ask for, and I know there's at least one person who agrees with me.
     
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  15. Denisvenom9

    Denisvenom9 》Faction Veteran《,

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    thanks a lot it means a lot. I really appreciate at least some positive feedback c: but if people want the trait to be honest, then why do they hate on me for having it, smh... Anyways your really supportive i like you a lot c;



    Edit: just realized, everyone who likes my thread are people who are nice and dont have anything against me, everyone else dont give a fucking about me and hate me.
     
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  16. YFIOTR

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    Dude, did you read my post correctly? I had no intention to hate at all. I know you're a good person. I remember you from factions. I apologize if I came off incorrectly. I meant that the attitude taken in the thread didn't seem like you wanted to change. I was just letting you know that for the future. :)
    That's not true. I have nothing against you and I like that you're trying to change. I just didn't like the attitude just like many others who didn't give your thread a like. No reason to feel down
     
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    witchchick128 Amity Blight Donator

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    I call you toxic because you will just shred through opinions and either make then negative or just make peeps feel that their opinion sucks. (Though its not really helping, I don't actually see anything too bad about you.)

    I am glad you are trying to improve.
     
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    I think it's great that you've decided to change but your wording makes it seem like you aren't sure about it.
    If you treat people nicely they will most likely do the same. You can't be rude to people and expect them to be nice in return. That just isn't how it works.
    I'm not saying there is not hope for you to change; if you did so that would be great. I'm sure you would be much more respected if you had a better attitude.
    This is meant to be helpful, so please don't take it the wrong way.
     
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    I'm toxic and people love me so I love u
     
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  20. Denisvenom9

    Denisvenom9 》Faction Veteran《,

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    Redlad my previous posts.