Help. Please.

Ok so, this is going to be kind of a long post, but I need your help.

So, my dad lives in NY, and I live in FL, he recently moved there last October, and I hate going to see him.

You know why? He is verbally abusive,

He says stuff like:
1. You can't be so f**king oblivious in your life Jacob.
2. Are you that F**king spoiled that you don't want to clean the toilet? (I had never done that and it was disgusting)
3. Are you that absent minded?
4. (He was showing me child support $) this is how much I payed your mother.
5. You need to lose weight or I'm going to put your a** on the tractor every f**king day.

*sigh*

What should I do? And if I talk to him about this he will just get more mad, plus he doesn't know I have a phone, and if he finds out, i probably wouldn't be able to post anymore, or play minecraft.

Means my mom have been thinking about seeing a psychologist to help me cope with this, is there anything I can do?


Please help.


And thank you for reading this the entire way,

-Whazzupman33

 

Well first off, clean the toilet. Just something you gotta learn to do.

But I'd talk with your mom about it more, as she is more likely to be able to get to him, rather than you.

 

get a baseball bat and smack your dad in the head to knock some compassion into him

 

Okay I know what your going through and I have been going through this for about 4 or 5 years. My mom does the same thing, I tell her be nicer doesn't work my grandma tells her to be nicer doesn't work. You pretty much have to listen to it.

 

My mom and dad have been divorced for about 10 years and when he asked me why don't you spend 10 years in yew York? You spent 10 years here, why not go up there until your 20, I was like enhhhh, (I didn't want to hurt his feelings).

I also weigh a little more than I'd like to.

So maybe that is a trigger.

Thanks for your concern.

 

I'm sorry if this doesn't work, but try this.
Talk to your father and ask him why he's acting like this to you. Why can't he change into a loving father instead of an aggressive animal.
Say stuff like "Why can't you show me you love me?" or "Why can't you act like a real father that cares for me."
Just don't be aggressive towards him or create any fights. Act confident, talk to him and find out why he's so angry.

Good luck. ;-;

 

Just shave his eyebrows

 

Ask him to stop, and if not, stop visitation.
I stopped visitation when my father's wife became verbally abusive towards me.

 

Parents been divorce for over 10 years too. Honestly sometimes i take verbal abuse. Not necessarily abuse just anger but thats a Hispanic mother. @DurpehDuckiee but anyways think of it as a motivation. Oh he yells at you about your weight? Start tryna lose weight and it will benefit you trust me ;) if he says u dont work as much. Hop out the muh f***ing porshe i mean the computer and do something

 

My mother isn't abusive towards me lol.
Neither is my father, so I've got that going for me.

Just do what MappyTurtle said, stop visitation.

 

I agree with Mappy, if you can. If not, talk to whoever you are currently living with (your mom i suppose) and explain to her the situation. If you end up having to visit him, from experience I know emotionally abusive parents tend to be manipulative, so keep a strong and level head. Don't fall for the things he says or let him guilt trip you some how and don't blow up on him either because that will most likely get him more mad. These types of situations suck; I'm sorry about this :c

 

I can see where you're coming from- I have a dad in NY that I am forced to visit from FL too, (although heis more neglectful than abusive)

So what I have to say is, his behavior is completely unacceptable. I can see your mom knows but please please do not keep this to yourself.
Maybe she can talk to him?

Also, unless there are court papers saying so, you don't have to visit him... in fact, you/your mom can take action in court against him.

However, for the time being, you might have to deal with him...

Would you be able to deal with him, like does he actually do parental duties or is he completely hostile?
Also, do not engage... I mean, I do not know much about these situations, but I just try to be as "good" as possible and it is okay... but I don't know anything about this... : I

 

Court papers I don't know much about, but if she says anything bad then he can take action against us.
Question, should I record the conversations we have and then present them to court? I don't know NY and FL's regulations for it, so if anyone knows tell me.

Thanks.

 

first ask him what drugs he takes, if he gives a strict answer, give him the middle finger and show him you deserve f***ing respect. explain to him that your his son not a fkn' murderer. tell him to sit his ass and to stfu, you have the rights to call the cops (you actually do), if he keeps doing that.

 

Honestly, im not sure what the problem is here. Are you a pain in the ass and you stress your dad out? Or is your dad just overreacting and being rude to you for nothing? Either way though he still shouldn't abuse you. I mean, if there is nothing you can do to stop it, just do what he says and pretend you appreciate him, that might change his behavior against you.

 

His verbal abuse probably comes from a childhood event such as him being verbally abused by his father as well. I would confront him about it and if he doesn't stop as @MappyTurtle said stop visitation afterward.

 

In New York, you can record a conversation between you and your father legally, even if he doesn't know you are recording. However, in Florida, both parties have to know and approve of it. And, if you present a New York recording with one party consent in a Florida court, it will not count because the recording is not legal by Florida law.

 

Alright, I appreciate it. Thank you to all who have helped, but I think the thread is dieing so I am going to lock it.