Why I've been in a dumpy mood.

To start things off, I'm an only child. You should know that first, it'll help you understand a few things later on.

So, as you may have noticed, I haven't been myself at all. One way to describe myself is saggy. I've been very low, and very sad. Because of that, I've been getting uncontrollable tears falling from my face for no reason, my humor's weakening, and I've been rude. I'm not trying to be rude, but I just can't find a way to talk right without hurting someone's feelings. It feels like my creativity's gone, and I have no sense of what I'm supposed to do. I haven't been eating my way out, but I hope I don't have to go to that later on in my life.

Do you know what the worst part is? My 3 year anniversary on the server is coming up. It's coming up on the same day as the server is turning 3 years old. August 8th. 2012. Normally, I'd be happy, seeing as it's in 12 days, less than two weeks! But I don't seem happy.

Spoiler: Comparison to Inside Out [SPOILERS]

It's like the one part where Joy gets seperated from headquarters and Riley enters depression.

I've still got friends. They're helpful. My family...not so much. I mean, they give me attention. But at the same time, they don't care about what words come out of my mouth. All they really do is assume what I say and then give a response to that. Usually their assumptions are wrong. When I try to clear it up with my mom, my dad'll come in and say "Why're you talking back to your mother?" and start to rage. Both of them rage, easily too. My mom doesn't really care about what I say, and my dad bullies me with his "jokes."

Spoiler: Example.

"Oh, look at the big kid with the layers! That's going to be [insert real name here] in 2 years!"

At this point, in my life, I'm not sure if I'm going to get through it for too much longer.

It's a tough life in this house, tbh. And it doesn't help with fixing my mood. So, I ask you, what do you do to brighten your spirits? Not in some way to fix a mood, but what do YOU, personally do to put up your spirits?

Thanks, for reading to that long rant.

 

Honestly something I think that brightens my mood is talking to friends or watching a funny video, something that makes me laugh and have a good time. It just makes me forget everything bad that's going on around me and they always make me feel better even when they don't know I'm even sad. I love my friends so much and can't thank them enough for being there especially when I need it.

 

tbh i just find something to do that releases my inner creativity, and it just makes me happy.
I also talk to you guys <3

 

Trust me, I almost know exactly how you feel. Emotionless, correct me if I'm wrong, or the only emotion worth showing right now is depression. Around your friends, you try and be happy but the minuet you get home you start sobbing for an unknown reason? I think I know a good solution.

Just fake it. I know it sounds stupid, but fake your happiness until all you can do is smile. This worked pretty well for me, it's kinda only temporary though. Maybe if you do it well enough you can trick your mind into thinking you are actually happy, making you happy. Because aound the forums you are always funny and upbeat from what I've read. sudden change in emotions can mean two things.

1.) You are dealing with lots of bad thoughts and images in your head, you are starting to loose yourself in your thoughts and control over your own mind. Whatever it is is starting to drive your emotions off key. Try and identify what's causing you the stress and find a way to fix it (I usually never fix it, I just ignore it. That's how I deal with my problems. Don't do this, it's a horrible habit that will bite you in the ass one day and you will loose control of everything.).
2.) Your mind is already in deep stress, you're already two steps ahead of me and have been faking it for who knows how long? Get in deep connections with your emotions and thoughts, and try and sort out what you (supposedly) impulsively started to hide from your friends and family.

Hope this helped at least a little bit :D

 

I keep my smile on even if things happen. I don't like others seeing me sad. I understand you, miner. When I was 3 the same thing happens to me and my family broke apart. I like to think on the bright side, there is(and will be) a positive side too everything.

I write a little journal(not a diary) only for sad things that happen. Sometimes I feel like talking to friends also help, when I start reading, my mind clears. Up.
Hope that I helped,( I tried) and everything will get better.

 

I'm no expert and I don't know what happens in your house, but I do know that I feel the same way sometimes.
I think the first thing to do is realize that your life isn't as bad as you can sometimes make it out to be. (I sometimes think my life is horrible, but I know it's not).

Plus, it is hard being a teenager and all because of hormones and other things that you can't control. I would suggest maybe talking to your parents and telling them that you have been upset lately.

My dad sometimes gets on my nerves and makes me feel upset, but I learn to deal with it. In the long run, your parents are there to help you and sometimes you might feel like you hate them, but it's completely normal. I sometimes feel like I HATE my dad, but that feeling goes away and I realize he is only helping me even if I don't realize it. You might not even be in the wrong sometimes and your parents will still get mad at you, but it is apart of life and it happens to every teenager. (Yes, even when your parents were teenagers too).

When ever I get frustrated with my parents, I usually just go in my room and sometimes sleep. I just give them time and later I will possibly apologize if I feel like I did something wrong and sometimes they will apologize to me.

Just remember that if you need to talk to someone when you get stressed out and/or angry, I am here. I know we don't talk ALL the time, but we still do talk and I consider us to be friends, so if you need to talk to someone, I am always available. I hope everything gets better.

 

You're 13, its probably just your hormones that are inducing these opinions of your parents etc.

 

No, it's not 'just your hormones'. Miner is going through stuff, and it's rude to go and try to invalidate his problems. Nobody wants to believe these types of things when they happen to them, believe me, but these types of statements don't help. There is a difference between getting mad about your parents not allowing you to go out with friends (although any teen would be upset by it) and the examples he put up in the thread above. You don't understand these types of things until you go through them.

 

Found something that is related, once again, hope it will get better soon. Talk to me if there's anything wrong, I have been through this so much.

 

Hope you feel better.

 

What I do? It's quit simple, I have learned this from my grandparents they said "when you go to school you do what the teacher tells you and you shut up" and to be honest it worked. xD

Now I know there are other problems such as your friends and I get that. I have told my friends that in school I don't talk. I'm not shy at all I just choose not to talk. Another reason I don't talk in school is because it gets me in trouble. xD my advice for you would to be listen to your parents, Example: "you need to get off the computer" you: "ok I need to finish something up!"
For school I just don't talk. Ignore the haters, you do what you want to do!

 

My problems aren't about school, just saying. Also, I actually DO say "Ok I need to finish something up", but then they start getting angry. Again. Thank you for helping though, Miner.

 

Nice.

 

Miner I'm so sorry I haven't replied sooner. I think most of us have been through this. If not, they will later in life.

Honestly, I have nothing to say. Not because I'm being rude, because I'm shocked. You're so nice and smart. Your words are definitely valuable to listen to. I don't understand why your parents won't support you but online friends will. That's not good parentship. But hey, they aren't my parents so I'm not going to judge.

All I have to say is stay strong. There are lots of times when my parents make me feel bad but I just shake it off. If you can't shake it off, try writing to yourself in a journal. That's what I do when I'm mad or upset. I write in a journal or talk to myself. Trust me it feels so good to get all that anger off your back. It also helps me confront my parents better.

Remember, you could always PM me or hit me up on TeamSpeak if I'm on. Hope I helped. Also, feel better soon.

 

It'll get better. If they won't let you talk find someone who will.

 

'The one tip you will ever need for anger and sadness:

Spoiler: Spoiler

 

I dont really have any tips or tricks to help you. But ill just tell you what i do, honestly tho i dont think this is a really healthy way to solve your problems. Okay on with it... What i do a lot if just block out whats making me a depressed and i just dont think about it anymore. I find something else to do. Like play on my phone, read a book, or just do something that might bring my mood up a bit. Usually i cant do anything that reminds of my "depression" or anything sad or ill just start crying. So thats what i do, and currently im using work as something to take my mind off of things. And also ill be using school as a way to, and practically drown myself in work. - If you ever want to talk you can msg me on skype: annienguyen1222 or kik: ok4yannie

 

xD