IRL Debate #1 Online Dating VS. IRL Dating

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Topic: Online Dating VS. IRL Dating.

Allow me to express my opinion first:

So I do not like the idea of online dating mainly because it's basically talking to a stranger that you have never met before, I prefer to date legitimately with IRL where you are actually interacting with the person you are dating. ThoughbI have never been on a date before due to me being a member of The Church Of Jesus Christ Of Latter Day Saints (us Mormons are not supposed to date until we reach the age 16 which I am about to become). Through my religion I am taught that dating is meant for practicing relationships and nothing else. So what that means is that dating is not so you can have a girl friend, it is not meant for marriage. It is meant so people can practice building relationships for the future if they ever decide to get a girlfriend after their missions who they might marry.

This is just my opinion and my religion beliefs. You don't have to think the same. I don't want someone quoting this post and questioning it so don't even. I will be keeping a close eye on this thread and will report anything I Feel needs to be deleted. End of discussion.

Now what is your opinions on this?

 

I don't mind if people date online, because I can't control their decision to do so and I honestly don't care (in a good way).
I just don't like it when an online couple is always like -
Oh I love him/her so much
Oh I love you so much.
Like, this is Minecraft not eHarmony...
Other than that I don't care.
I don't even care if an online couple expresses their love occasionally as long as it is not excessive to the point where it becomes annoying.

 

That is true. As much as I don't like it, it is still thier choice and we really cannot judge them. Good point. ;)

 

who said anything about minecraft dating, couldnt just been dating websites




IRL

 

Oh look a perfect thread for me

As many of you probably know, I strongly dislike online dating.
Why? Well, the main reason is that most people who do online dating are people under the age of 15 that only date someone for the sake of not being single (you know it's true).
Here's what I don't mind though: people who talk a lot (a lot) way before they start dating, heard each other's voices, seen each other's faces, video cam'd, and asked each other out face to face (on a video cam or what not). What most of the people do though, is meet each other, and a month later (probably without even knowing what does the other look like) they ask each other out through text.

Also, let's return to the first thing I said: most of the couples on the internet (and here perhaps) are under the age of 15. What do they know about love? Nothing. In my opinion anyone under the age of 13 isn't even a teen. Why would you date anyone this early?
Also notice how many relationships here end way too fast. All of those people with their lovey dovey talks, a month later they suddenly break up. Why? Simply because dating online is almost impossbile. Especially if you're 12 years old, jesus...

Now let's move to a different "topic", which is why I think real life dating is better.
Let's make a list real quick, what can you do with a real life partner/online partner:

Online relationship

Play video games with each other
Maybe skype from time to time or have a video cam call
Talk to each other in text conversation (on skype, perhaps)

Real life relationship

Actually go to places together
Go to the same school maybe and do projects together
Talk to eachother everyday via text messages or phone calls (I'm pretty sure you won't give your phone number to someone online)
Maybe buy gifts for eachother
Actually celebrate valentines together and not just stand next to eachother's Minecraft characters inside some pink building.
Just be next to each other in general

See what I mean when I say online relationships are useless compared to real life relationships?

If you want a relationship so bad, just wait until you're a little bit older, find the one, and then you can have a relationship.
Why rush it and date someone online you don't even know while you're still a preteen, just for the sake of wanting a relationship?

Last topic: "stranger danger". Yes, I'm being this one annoying shit.
As much as you think you know the person you're talking to, you may not know. Maybe they lied about their age, maybe they lied about their gender, etc etc.

One last thing I want to say to all of the couples on this forum:
Enough.
Just enough.
Putting your "lover"'s name in your custom title, profile picture, status, location ("in the warm heart of ---- <3" I'm pretty sure they would die if you were inside their hearts) and what not is starting to get really annoying.
We get it, you're dating, no need to shove it in our faces every 2 seconds because it just proves my point of "dating just for the sake of not being single".
If you truly dated that person because you liked them, you wouldn't run around and shout "LOOK EVERYONE I'M DATING" because that's just showing off, and that's not what "true love" is. True love is not using your boyfriend/girlfriend to show the world you're not single.

Welp, didn't plan to make such long post.
Anyway, that's just my opinion.

 

I agree with this. Go back to be a child and enjoy while it lasts. My childhood is simply full of "memories". To some of you kids who are dating just for thirst, please stop. Nobody wants you to rub it in their face and say, "Oh look! I'm dating someone!" in your titles. We're sick of it.

 

Well said Vai. That is the exact reason why I will not date until I turn 16 (Which will be in 3 months)

 

Never done either #foreveralome

 

Online dating is making this generation the worst generation of all man kind, look at all those websites (omegle, chatroullete, etc..) I don't even know why those were created, if you tell me that its for strangers to meet each other, I'd take an uzumaki and kill you with it, here's what happends on Omegle and ChatRoulette everyday

• You choose video chat
• after skipping some kids, you find someone masterbating
• after skipping that, you find a girl who skips you then you find a guy who is masterbating

Online dating is just useless, no matter how they are, where they are, excluding what @Fawn said, if you know each other from a long long time, I can do an exception for you

IRL dating is 90% of marrage cause, like, if everyone online dated and never went out, 60% of the earth's population would be gone/no longer exist, Like seriously, if we removed Online dating, image how many people would seriously go out and meet someone from anywhere and defy thier shy problems and ask to marry him/her, the earth's population would be over 10 Billion people, Now the lack of marrage is because of online dating of course, take this for example, there are 15k people on omegle daily, lets say 75 hundred are male and rest is female, lets make those people meet in real life and never met each other online, what would happen if they just asked each other out and then he asked her parents to engage her *skipping 10 lines of math* - IRL dating is better for this generation, Especialy this generation, literally

And as always, Thanks for reading
dem vsauce refrence at the end, also dont fuckin start flaming k?

 

Hmm Online dating is not bad, but in my opinion I'd rather date Someone irl。 I like to hug them, feel their comfort, kiss them, talk faster, and have them respond right away you know。 But dating in general is all up to the person themselves。

 

Online: It is very easy to start a relationship. VERY. But keeping a relationship, that's the hard part. For example, me and @NinjaGumball were only in a relationship for 2 months. @ItsPacers has just been blowing through girlfriends xD (no offense, it's true :/) If you can keep up a relationship, congratulations, you might as well be dating in real life because you have bonded that strongly. For example, @Katy9078 and @05ocram05. Almost a year, how about and early congratulations :)

Real life: Though it is hard to start, once you get it going, you're good. Just don't screw up :P In real life, you need tons of courage. The bravest thing I have felt that I have ever done was to talk to my crush and then buying her a Valentine's Day gram, asking her if she likes me back. Easier said than done.


I really don't favor one side over the other, as long as it makes you happy then go for it :)

 

I don't get online dating

 

if both parties are mature enough to handle it, then alright.

 

I honestly think dating online is a great opportunity to fall in love with one's personality rather than their physical appearance. When you first join the server, you see people talking with each other through a video game, instead of suddenly being put into an environment in real life and judging people based upon their looks. Sure, it's a video game and not some dating website, but we're all human. Humans have feelings and react to situations differently. If you talk with someone awhile and actually get to know who they are and how they act, sooner or later you're going to develop feelings for them, whether they're good or bad. If you like how someone acts, you guys relate, and all of the stairs align, yeah of course you're going to like said person.
Frankly, if people want to advertise their relationship, let them be. Yeah, sure, it might be annoying and grabs attention, but if that's how they work then that's what you got to live with.
I also personally believe that yes, some relationships' presence is there because they're lonely; however, most are genuine. Once again, we're all humans--humans have feelings and there's no way around them.
Sure, online dating can be quite the bitch at times, but if you are patient and still love/like the person you're dating, sooner or later you'll meet--I mean, look at Kate and Xenon. :p

To conclude I really don't give a damn if you're dating in real life or online. Whatever works for you, I mean, it's your life, not mine. As long as you're happy then I don't see whether it matters or not.

 

I haven't dated anyone online or irl
because
no one finds me attractive I guess


Anyway


I just think online dating is like, kinda like far distance relationships: they're hard to maintain, you don't really see each other, and you can't hang out with them or go on dates with them.
So I just think it's pointless and not rad


Irl dating:
So like in my school, the 14 year olds in my grade you know the "popular ones" yea well they just kinda like date each other like after a guy is done with a girl or vice versa they move on to the next one. It's really disgusting actually and it's not healthy at all.
But people who are actually in a stable relationship it's nice, I think.
But Irl dating also brings up things like abuse of your partner and other problems which is a downside but anyway.

I think Online dating is stupid and that you shouldn't do it unless you're mature enough to handle it
I also think IRL dating is stupid but probably better than online dating because it's more intimate.

TL;DR
Dating is gross.

 

Love comes in many different shapes and sizes. I wouldn't judge someone's relationship, because I don't know the whole story. Online dating isn't just finding someone on omegle and calling them your boyfriend/girlfriend, it's about meeting someone through a fandom, twitter, etc. and talking to them every single chance you get until you finally get the courage to tell them how you feel. Some people might find it weird that you date someone over the internet, but the only thing that really separates you is distance. I have a friend who is in a internet relationship, and they've been together for a year, and they are planning to go see each other at vidcon. I'm not saying that all internet relationships are good, I'm saying that if someone is happy with their relationship, you shouldn't judge them.

 

I was waiting for this thread to comes back just so I can state this. Yes. Here goes for once.
Online dating rarely works. Sure, it can work. And sometimes it does. But there are a few things that need to be said... Namely, that it doesn't work for everyone. And it doesn't work for most people.
Online dating is great if you need an emotional connection, because that's kind of what it brings. And that's really nice, but an important thing to recognize is that at one point or another, it has to go somewhere. You can talk and play games with whomever you're dating online. That's it. In real life, you can be with the person, experience their actual personality, and get to know them - for real. No matter who you are, if you don't see the person at some point, it won't work. Everyone has different times. Let's take Kate and Xenon for example, they got the chance to actually see each other and experience their legitimate side, personality-wise, etc - that's why they're an example of a fairly successful relationship. But if you don't meet at some point, it isn't going to work because you won't really be able to surprise the other person anymore (after all, your opportunities are fairly limited), thus leading to it becoming boring.
I'm not saying that online dating is impossible, but if it doesn't become RL at some point, it won't work. You won't have a successful relationship with that person you can't see, whether they're 30 miles away or 3000 miles away. That's the focal point - seeing someone in real life allows a relationship to grow and flourish to something completely different and new.

Real life dating has its flaws, don't get me wrong. Sensual attraction happens far more often in real life, and if you're just seeing them to bang them, it isn't even a relationship. You won't find that as often in online dating, because there you're far more often to fall in love with someone's personality, not solely their looks.
Online dating also isn't actually you. Let's face it - do any of us act exactly like they do on the Internet as they do in real life? No. We all have slight personality changes when we're just typing something. That can harm a relationship. I should know; that's what happened to me.
All in all, both work, but a real life relationship is a more perfect embodiments of what a relationship is supposed to be. Online dating can work... But make sure you'll see the person first.
And that's a must.
Good luck everyone reading this.

 

Society is changing anyway. Most things are starting to be based off of online. Whether it's dating, working etc, things are going to keep being based off from behind our computer screens for the rest of our lifetimes. Yes people say that online dating is bad due to the fact that people may not look like such and such they said they were or act completely differently. Or the fact that they could have multiple partners at once. Well they are just people that don't take it seriously. People do take online dating seriously and once you develop feelings for someone regardless if it's online or irl, it's still the same thing.

The only difference being, you can't be with your partner. But like Lila said, look at Kate and Xenon. Xenon loves Kate so much that he was willing to spend his own money to see her irl. I would do the same if I was madly in love with someone you never know I might be hehehehe. Sometimes it may be better to start off online because if you rushed straight into an irl relationship, things could get awkward quick. Yes I know that isn't always the case, but there is another side to everything. Like if you are online, you can get to know the person, gain trust, love etc, then meet them irl when you are ready.

In my opinion, both ways are fine. As long as you are happy together whether you live next door or in a different continent, love is everlasting and stretches the length of the universe. If it's irl, happy days. But if it's online, just remember, you may not be with your partner physically...but your hearts are in the same place.

 

I honestly don't prefer online dating anymore. Though I have my own reasons which I'll share in a moment but first let's talk about why it's not such a bad idea. Online dating as Yomc said above rarely works but sometimes does. Something that some people feel on the internet rather then in real life is more confidence. You have more confidence on the internet because you can't really see them nor would you think they'd ever actually hurt you. I have to admit, it actually is pretty fun but I personally think irl is a better idea. Does that mean you shouldn't still consider it? Absolutely not, you should always consider your future or sort of plan it ahead of time like on meeting someone some day or maybe going to the same college as them. Saying I've done this before, it can be fun at sometimes but it's not the real thing. Some of you know my past ones which I will not name but some of them aren't really that close to me nor friends anymore. Of course this happens in real life but there sometimes tends to be an awkwardness in a break up on the internet. But for me, I really don't prefer it anymore based on what I've been told and what has happened to me recently and other events I also shall not name. Though everyone has that special someone in their life and if you think they're on here then go for it.

 

Which 2 people voted online dating? Do you mean like mc and stuff cause if you do then it's weird sometimes cause peep
S are like "Hey Baby Love You xxxxxxx" In MAIN CHAT! I MEAN ON MC