hi, I know I make a lot of threads and I'm kinda annoying but I've gotten real tired, before i say anything if you joke around or spread some hateful message, you can leave now so I'm trans yea yea, cool. yesterday, I was at the dog park with my dad and there was another guy there Guy: hey! is this your son? me: shakes head my dad: no no that's my daughter birthname! guy: oh sorry! the short hair!! my dad: she does that on purpose! I didn't say anything, or do anything. This happens all of the time, I'm not a girl and have never been one. I never lash out on others when they do misgender me, sometimes I'll correct them but I'm not a big talker so I normally don't do it. I understand that people misgender me without knowing but it makes me super upset as if it's not bad enough. There are a lot of people who do it on purpose and I'm able to tell when that happens. My goal as a trans person isn't to pass as cis, it's to feel comfortable with myself, etc but not to pass as cis. Am I too feminine? I don't know what it is. I hate being the boy that's different than other boys, who is always mistaken as a girl. I can't really describe how I feel. My style is sorta masculine. My family is super unaccepting and I came out 7 months ago so I thought that something would change by now. They don't even try to use my name and pronouns. I'm not demanding or anything but at-least trying to and respecting me would be amazing. I'm just in a real tough spot with a lot of things and this would be one thing to get out of the way. I don't really know what to do. sorry if I'm unclear, I'm not good at putting how I feel into words on a screen most of the time. it's also unclear on what I'm asking so make what you want out of it. any tips would be great. thank you!
I'm bad at giving advice/tips; So I'll try my best. Honestly, I don't know why your family/father still aren't accepting who you are. If I was in your 'shoes', I would straight out talk to your family and tell them to accept who you are as a person, and what you are. If you want to make yourself clear as a male; You have to go out and announce it to others, with bravery and courage. If you don't always correct people; They will get the wrong idea and think that your a female. take no offense to this please, this is my assumption; I think your father is still thinking it's a 'phase' that your going through and this 'phase' is going to end soon. The truth is; He can't accept the change just yet?, but I assure you someday he will accept you. Just put yourself out there as a male; It's okay to put yourself out there. I hope this helped c:
I'm very sorry to hear about what you've been going through lately. It is sad how some people just don't take the time to appreciate/respect things like this, honestly. Under any circumstances, it isn't demanding or selfish to remind anyone, even your family. They should respect you as a person and their child. If possible, try to sit down with your family and discuss that you do not appreciate it when they misgender you like that and that you want to be more comfortable with yourself. If anyone mistakes your gender, it is all right to inform them. You aren't being selfish, needy, or anything. Don't ever think that. Just please know that you have so many people supporting you and understand your troubles. You aren't alone on this and so many people have already accepted you for who you are. You deserve just as much respect as any other human being does. I do apologize if this wasn't much help, but you do have my full support and I'm always here to talk if you need to. Please keep your head held high.
I do present myself as male. also I don't know if they'd take it lightly if I went out and talked to them about it.
If I was you I'd just tell him not to misgender you and if he keeps doing it, threaten him not to go walk/go outside with him anymore Seriously you can't let this happen, you deserve some respect Hope this doesnt happen to you anymore!!!
I don't think they would over-react and i'm not so sure if they would. You want someone to accept who you are, and so you need to talk to them, in a way that they will understand. In this case, This is important to your future and they should be aware of it, They may overreact, that's how all people do in certain situations & even sometimes overracting in somecases in good. I would say; If I talked to my parents about a serious situation, they would over-react to see if i'm alright etc. You need to calmly sit down with them, and make them understand what you want. Sorry if this made no sense or not good of a responce
You talk so much online, yet you fail to speak up in real life. If you say these things to your family, I bet you leave them speechless. Stop being such a *** EDIT: This post was seen as offensive but I don't mean it that way. I have talked to @ImNotOkayy on Teamspeak about it and I explain how they always have many arguments ready and on stand-by. So I was confused when I read that they aren't able to speak up for themselves when it comes down to it in real life. I am always harsh in these kinds of situations and try to be as forward as possible so it might come over rude, but I was really trying to help. I know I could have left the last sentence out.
I agree with that. You have the right to stand up for yourself if people are making you uncomfortable, no matter who it is. You need to speak your mind this time because eventually holding everything in won't be so easy. I know you don't expect the best thing coming out of confrontation, but at the least you tried and you never really know what will happen unless you actually do it. I think you need to put yourself first in this situation and confront them because at the least respect is what you deserve, especially from your parent.
