Two things before I write this thread: I’m writing this on my phone so it could be a little sloppy since I’m on vacation. I’m only focusing on one stereotype. Let’s “debate” over a stereotype. By debate, I mean agree/disagree with a reason. Don’t let this get out of hand, again. The fuckboy stereotype, and overall men. This isn’t coming from your stereotypical feminist that some of you laugh at in cringe complication, it’s coming from a man. I think a lot of people think as “all men are dogs”. It’s changed, yes, but it’s different, and unfortunately, for the most part not for the better. The way I mean “changed for the worse” is that they continuously brag about “how many chicks they pulled” or “their DMs”. In the end of the day, that doesn’t matter. It’s about being faithful and loyal to one person, and falling in love. The problem is people can’t look past love and instead focus on... you know what. It sucks to see that, and it’s stating to effect the younger generations (such as my generation specifically (Gen. Z)). The message in this is to be faithful and, don’t be a shitty person in the department of love.
I feel like a lot of people misuse the term 'fuckboy'. I feel like a 'fuckboy' is someone that clearly uses girls/guys for money/personal gain and not the sole purpose of love or being in a relationship with someone they desire. I completely agree with you. Dont use people and dont cheat. Loyalty is a major key in love.
I think it's a very personal thing and how and where you grow up. By this thread i'm assuming you've been raised in a very nice keep it quiet family, which of course is completely fine but also makes you more sensitive to topics like these. It's a natural thing for people to brag about the accomplishments, whether it is having a expensive car or in most recent years the amount of guys/girls you've slept with. I think people who are raised in a more open and a more (I don't know how else to word it) rude family are much less sensitive to it because they have been exposed to this behavior much more than someone who's been raised in a family where that type of behavior is not accepted by the family. Whether you're male of female, there will always be the group that you can consider ''Fuck boys'' or ''Hoes''. And you're looking at the world from your own perspective which is ok, but also put yourself in the mindset of others. When it comes to relationships I take my time and I'm a very loyal faithful person to the other, but that is by my own choice. A friend of mine on the other hand, he has a more ''You have to live life!!'' mentality and therefor has as much fun with as many girls as possible before he wants to settle and get serious with one partner. Meaning you could call him a fuckboy, but also someone who's making and grabbing the most out of his younger years. And you can't do much other than respect him for that, sure you don't have to like or agree on his life choices as of right now but hey, he's living lol. But yes, that's how probably our next generation will be. I think that if you look around on the internet enough you'll notice how things like sex are wildy spread now as meme's and as a false vision of reality (I mean those comics that depict a perfect relationship setting even though only 0,01% will ever actually find them self's in a situation like that lasting for a second) it's becoming a much more interesting and open topic than it used to be, and it's made much easier for younger people to see and to fall in love with it. I think major influences for some are certain instagram accounts of people who have a shit ton of money and are living a very expensive privileged life, if you're older you think ''hm ok nice (I GUESS??)'' but when you're a young child it's easier to go ''[Red arrow pointing to the right] WOW! That's so cool, I wish I was like that! I should act like this! Make my parents pay, and if I act like i'm 24 when i'm 14 life will be cool!'' Also I find this video extremely entertaining and I think the message behind it cannot describe the ''Fuckboy/hoes'' term any better.
I feel like we use the term "fuckboy" pretty loosely now and in my opinion it has always been a player or someone who is blatantly using women for something and is causing harm emotionally. Especially with social media now we have a perception that beauty and vanity is what should come first and is what guys look for in a relationship and sadly some boys do end up thinking all girls must look a certain way or act a certain way and those are the ones who end up as stereotypical "fuckboys". I 100% agree with you and hope people realise love, trust, communication, etc are the key components to a relationship and not looks.
That seems like a bit much. Social media makes people think that, but not everyone is on social media or acting like a "fuckboy."
i mean, i've had terrible experiences with people irl. literally every boy i knew was an idiot. and its the same for the girls. it depends on where you are, i suppose. otherwise, you're right. but look at all the celebrities, jake paul, nicki minaj, justin bieber, etc. they're all terrible influences yet people, kids, look up to them. they live the "do whatever you do and dont worry about anyone else" lifestyle and they try to pass that on. sometimes to kids with a poor family. that can seriously fuck their life over. dammit i went too far
Hate to break it to you, this has been going on for pretty much forever. The names called may change but the attitude about the people don't. Both sides, male or female, are responsible. I learned a long time ago from my mother and I teach my kids this as well... don't judge someone based on their gender, ethnicity, etc... if they're an ass, they're an ass. Just because one person says people are one way doesn't make it true. I made it a practice of only believing 50% of what people tell me online. My oldest daughter told people she gamed with that she and I fought all the time. We rarely ever fought at all. Lesson learned. It's never 100% the truth online.
Spoiler: Mature Language Looking at it from a phycological/instinctive stand point it kinda makes sense for men to try and have sex with as many women as possible. The "meaning of life" from an evolutionary view is for humans to reproduce and continue humanity to guarantee our species success as long as possible. Based on how male reproductive systems work they can procreate at a much higher rate then women do, as women only create an egg every month and pregnancy last 9 months. This is why instinctively men are more driven to have sex and with more partners per say. That said in modern times it isn't okay for this kind of behavior. We live in a society with marriage and long lasting relationships with only one partner. This is a much safer and more respectful way of life and it can be upsetting when so called "fuckboys" try to brag about how many girls they have slept with.
I agree with the first half of @ANumber2Pencil 's post. The second half not so much. Up until about the 1990s, marriage and children in that order was the priority. I cannot tell you how many kids are shocked when I tell them I have 4 kids and I have never been married. I've been in committed relationships but I'm not going to shell out money to have a wedding, a license, etc etc because someone thinks I should. Marriage license were created to keep track of people and who they married. It may have been born out of necessity at one point but in this day and age it should be up to the people. A little piece of paper isn't going to stop you from being divorced. That said.... I am seriously tired of hearing how people on this server treat each other. If someone dates a lot of people on the server, fine. If you don't want to date people online, fine. Who the hell are any of us to tell anyone else how to live? I dated people online. My current relationship was born from 'edating' that everyone looks down on. Ya know what 12 years later... we're still together. I get that some people do it for attention. I know a lot of people on the server that do that. If it explodes in a huge mess.. ya know what not my monkeys, not my circus. The looking down on people for it needs to stop. Unless your life is 100% perfect and your happy.... then worry about you and not someone else.
No I agree with you. I probably didn't explain it too well but thats why I said "marriage and long lasting relationships with one person." I don't mean you have to get married because I know plenty of people don't. But I do think that it is appropriate to have one partner at a time and try to be with them for as long as you can, as in multiple years if not forever.
